工作坊讲师 Workshop Presenter
林律霞女士 Ms Lim Re-Har
新加坡华语辅导谘商学会 Chinese Counselling Society (Singapore)
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新加坡太和观家庭服务中心首席社工师、临床督导兼主管。
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从事社会服务行业近20年，长期服务于社区家庭服务中心和医疗机构，致力于帮助弱势家庭及各个年龄层有需要的人士和群体。
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擅长心理咨询、夫妻与家庭辅导，以及对复杂和高危个案的介入与督导，例如家庭暴力、儿童虐待、自杀风险和精神疾患等议题。曾于2016至2018年间受新加坡社会及家庭发展部委任为金文泰区家暴工作组主席。目前亦获新加坡社会福利局局长委任为核准福利官员，以协助保障儿童青少年的福利与发展。
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本次工作坊将通过讲演、个案分享、小组讨论等形式，探讨发生在家庭层面的（如夫妻、亲子、家庭成员之间）有意或无意的伤害行为与形式，提升参与者对相关议题的觉察与反思，并期望因此促进家庭成员之间更健康、和谐的互动与相处模式。
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Principal Social Worker, Clinical Supervisor, and Manager at Thye Hua Kwan Family Service Centre in Singapore.
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Has worked in the social service sector for nearly 20 years, serving in both community-based family service centres and healthcare institutions, supporting vulnerable families and individuals across all age groups.
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Specializes in psychological counselling, couple and family work, as well as intervention and supervision of complex and high-risk cases, such as family violence, child abuse, suicide risk, and mental health issues. From 2016 to 2018, she was appointed by Singapore’s Ministry of Social and Family Development as the Chairperson of the Clementi Family Violence Workgroup. She is currently appointed by the Director of Social Welfare as an Accredited Child Protection Officer, tasked with safeguarding and promoting the welfare and development of children and youth.
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This workshop will use lectures, case sharing, and group discussions to explore harmful behaviors within families—intentional or unintentional—such as those occurring between spouses, parents and children, or other family members. The aim is to raise awareness and encourage reflection on these issues, with the hope of fostering healthier and more harmonious family interactions.
工作坊简介 Workshop Synopsis
以爱为名的伤害—家庭和亲密关系中的操控与界限失守
良好的家庭和亲密关系至关重要，也影响深远。它不仅能支持个体的身心健康发展，也能营造出一个安全的港湾，让家庭成员获得滋养与放松。良好的亲密关系能够让个体被关爱、被照顾，获得身心的满足与支持。相反，不良的家庭和亲密关系所带来的伤害也将是巨大，甚至是灾难性的。
家庭和亲密关系中的暴力，往往披着“爱”的外衣悄然蔓延。肢体伤害只是冰山一角，那些藏在“为你好”背后的伤害，让“窒息式保护”披上温柔外衣，“情绪勒索”戴上亲情面具，“经济控制”伪装成爱的奉献——这些以爱为名的暴力，无声地撕裂着家庭和亲密关系的根基。
在这个工作坊中，我们将共同探讨家庭和亲密关系中可能出现的各种暴力伤害形式。此外，我们也将一起学习健康关系中的边界意识，以及边界失守的表现，并练习如何以非暴力沟通的方式处理冲突。本工作坊还将帮助大家了解现有的法律资源与求助途径，并学习在面对困境时基本的自我关怀技巧。
诚邀您参加此次工作坊，学习识别家庭和亲密关系中边界失守的信号，练习平等沟通与守护边界的方法，守护您所爱的人，也通过自我关怀更好地照顾自己的身心。挣脱以爱为名的枷锁，重建滋养生命的关系生态。
When Love Hurts: Understanding Control and Boundary Violations in Families and Intimate Relationships
Healthy family and intimate relationships are vital and have a far-reaching impact. They support the mental and physical well-being of individuals and provide a safe haven where members can feel nourished and relaxed. A nurturing, intimate relationship allows one to feel cared for, fulfilled, and supported. Conversely, when these relationships become unhealthy, the harm caused can be severe — even devastating.
Violence within families and intimate relationships often hides beneath the guise of "love." Physical harm is merely the tip of the iceberg. The damage concealed behind phrases like "this is for your own good" manifests in various forms: stifling protection dressed as tenderness, emotional blackmail disguised as familial concern, financial control masked as loving sacrifice. These acts of violence perpetrated in the name of love silently erode the foundation of close relationships.
This workshop will examine the different forms of harm that can arise within family and intimate settings. We will consider:
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How violence can manifest subtly in relationships
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The importance of boundaries in healthy connections
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What boundary violations look like in practice
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How to engage in non-violent communication during conflict
Participants will also gain an understanding of relevant laws, resources, and help-seeking channels, and learn basic self-care strategies for managing such challenges.
We warmly invite you to join this workshop to:
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Recognise the signs of boundary violations
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Practice communication that is rooted in equality and respect
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Learn how to care for yourself and your loved ones through self-compassion
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Break free from the chains of "love" used as control, and rebuild a life-giving ecosystem of relationships